Advance apology

[Lu]

All, this post is intended as an advance apology, which may, or may not, be required.

I love playing in CoX and RPing with the FA crew and have been spending almost every evening in the game and often lots of mt time at weekends too. I really enjoy spending my time this way, playing a fun game, with good friends. But the game is begining to consume my life. RL Pix is becoming lost.

I was told recently by some one, that I should concentrate more on PL Pix being happy. While playing the game does give me happiness, it also makes me feel guilty that house work doesn't get done and that I am not performing as well as I could do at work because I am tired and not giving it the time I should. And it means other things that I enjoy doing don't happen either, such as spending time in the garden, or reading.

So I need to try and reduce the time I spend in the game and do some of the other things that I need to do and want to do, that will also make me happy once they have been done.

Part of this might involve me going to bed suddenly, or taking time out of the game to cook some proper food for dinner, or getting into the game later than I might have done in the past. If I don't RP these sudden things very well, or seem to leave teams suddenly with little or no explanation then please accept this as the reasons and apology if I leave anyone in the lurch for any reason.

I don't want anyone to feel they are responsible for this decision. It has been coming for a while, it just took me a long time to take some positive action about it. Although it will sadden me to spend less time with you all, it is something I need to do for my own sanity and happiness. I am hoping, by posting the decision here, I will be better able to follow through with this decision.

If by following through with this, anyone feels slighted, or that I have let them down, please accept my deepest apologies. I can only say that I didn't not intend to cause anyone any hassle, or disappointment.

I do still intend to participate in the game and RP my toons and enjoy CoX, I just might not be able to give it as much time now as I had in the past.

[Phoenix]

Nothing to apologise for sez me. I've been doing pretty much the same thing on and off for a while (I came to effectively the same conclusions a while back, and left the game entirely for a while) and I am happier (and I daresay a better RPer when I do do it) now.

RLness/happiness is more important in ze long run, after all. And we'll still be about for ya when you are in teh CoX, or here, and all that. It is, after all, just a game in the end, albiet a good one, and it ain't worth damaging your own happiness for. Enough people trying to do that for you, no doubt.

I'm bad at this whole communication thing, so I'll can it now.

*much hugs*

[Ves]

*nods*

Lumi is spot on there, RL stuff is far more important than games, especially if those RL issues are making you unhappy.

You do whatever you need to do to make everything all better (or as much as you can at least), for as long as you need to do it, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who'll gladly support this.

When you see me online, just yell if you ever want someone to natter to, stomp bad guys with, or just a little retail therapy in Icon *grins*

[Kitmarch]

Hear hear!

And no apologies. Where do you think *I've* been lately? Not around, that's for sure.

[Shadowe]

Well, other than that RL Shad wishes that RL Pix had spoken to him about this rather than it coming as a total shock to him by posting it on these boards, I'm inclined to agree with what everyone else has said.

[stonegiant]

*hugs* no apologies needed dear RL Pix's happiness is important. Anything I can do, let me know.

[Shadowe]

Earlier post modified to remove inflammatory comment.

[Akkarin]

No worries Pix, I don't think anyone is going to mind. I know the feeling, sometimes you need some time for lifey things. I hope all improves for you soon. *Hugs*

[Meadow]

Its quite understandable .. i had the choice between WoW and CoH ( due to the fact that my money is VERY tight .. you cant just spend £3800 instantly and not notice ), and i already picked one out.

And even then im aware of the fact that im rarely online since RL is starting to consume more and more of my attention.

Kinda almost got off track there .. but to say what i wanted to say and what everyone else have said : RL is more important than your characters. So take time off the game if you need it. I would also advise not to stay up all night when youve got work to do. Other than that .. uuh .. Be happy ! ;D